1st Date Warning “Floodlighting” Spilling Everything, Emotionally Manipulative Hack

Opening up the floodgates and pouring out your heart on a first date, spilling everything about your previous relationship drama and childhood trauma, is a messy mating movement known as “floodlighting.” And dating pros are putting a spotlight of caution on the toxic trend. “Floodlighting. It’s the opposite of vulnerability, but it presents as somebody who’s very open and vulnerable,” explained podcaster Becca Tobin of the emotionally manipulative hack. “When they overshare a lot right upfront,” continued the blond in a TikTok clip, “they’re  floodlighting you — they’re flashing these lights into your face.” “Essentially, it’s their armor,” added Tobin, crediting author Brenè Brown with coining the term, which is now buzzing across social media. Raining on the parades of singles looking for something serious, floodlighting is a stunt often used by tricksters hoping to reel in a potential partner by divulging their personal information to gain empathy and establish a false (and premature) sense of trust.

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Source: AOL